Stop Self-Destructing Yourself From Happiness!

Self-destructive behaviour is any behaviour that is harmful to towards the person who is engaging in the behaviour.

Causes of self-destruction is often triggered by loss, pain or other traumatic event or experience that often commences the behaviour in early life.

Self-destructive behaviours can include antisocial forms, developed addiction and compulsive behaviours, self-injury, neediness and irresponsibility.

When people around the person recognises these traits, it is often easy to engage in sympathy, empathy and attention, but this is actually linked to worsening the behaviour when an outsider indulges the person exhibiting the behaviour.

From the person’s point of view, they just do not give a damn about anything. It is important to realise that they do not like this kind of attitude but they do not see hope, change or point in continuing the way they have been. It can be a form of rebellion, in order to cope with failure. It’s a taking of control about things that they may feel are slipping from their reach. It also forms an excuse and a reason for things not going to plan.

But there is another way. If you identify with some of these behaviours or feelings, you should realise that this is a temporary mindset that is nothing but damaging.

Give yourself time to wallow and feel sorry for yourself but then rise above it and take a hold in a different way. Take a note of what triggered this behaviour. Try and trace it to the source and then work backward to try and find a resolution or at least closure.

Then form a contingency plan for when you are about to act in a self-destructive way. Perhaps instead of putting on a sad album and crying yourself to sleep, call a friend. Instead of reaching for a bottle of beer, go out for a walk or jog around the block. When your mind starts spitting out all of the negativity in your brain, have a mindless TV show that acts as a distraction for a while.

Believe me when I say that I understand that all of this is easier said than done, but oftentimes self-destructive behaviours become habit. It only takes a break in the pattern to break the habit and if you stick to it, you will be able to set yourself free.

You just have to want to help yourself.

You are worth it and you don’t have to self-destruct from hopelessness.

You just have to put a little fight into it, to win!

Much love,