Relationship Advice: Rebounds!

So this post is more of an advice column than personal life blogging. I wanted to talk about moving on after a break up.

I almost fell into a rebound almost. Thankfully something inside of me kept telling me it wasn't right to be with this guy so I never was.

What I have learnt is that you need to be content and happy on your own before you should start a relationship. After a long-term or even short term but serious relationship, you are suddenly left with this void, a gaping hole where someone used to be. It is so easy to jump at the first person who could potentially fill that gap and who says nice things about you when you need a confidence boost. Its so so easy, I've been there. But bad news, it really isn't what you should do. Just think to yourself, what if something went wrong with the new person where would you be? Probably in a worse state than before. This is what I mean about learning to be ok on your own first.

Start with baby steps! Just do your nails or go on YouTube one night and attempt to follow a makeup or hair tutorial. In other words, do something for you. This will slowly but surely increase your confidence. Then when to are feeling a bit better about yourself go shopping on your own or even take mum or your sisters if you really want some company. You will find that spending time with the people closest to you is actually so much fun. By doing this you will see that it is possible to enjoy yourself without having him in your life and when you are alone, it's tough but not the end of the world!

Then eventually, you will look so good and be glowing that you will attract the attention of a guy. You just want to make a friend of him first and then see what it leads to. 

So to sum this up, I just wanted to make you aware of a rebound and why it is NEVER a good idea.

Remember ladies, you are strong, independent women and we will be just fine on our own before we let a new man into our lives.